The InsLindsay has an affectionate nature and is in harmony with her environment. Charming and friendly, she is on good terms with most of the people in her sphere. Her friends and associates mean a lot to Lindsay Lohan and her relationships are positive and loving. Generally sunny and optimistic, Lindsay Lohan has a cheering effect on those around her. Lindsay likes and needs people, and others genuinely like her too. She enjoys a wide circle of friends who are like family to her. Entertaining, partying, social activities, and fellowship are essential ingredients for her emotional well-being.

However, Lindsay has conflicting emotional desires and needs which complicate her personal life and relationships. She may feel that she cannot depend on her love partner to take care of her or perhaps Lohan cannot decide what she really wants in love relationships: a parent or a lover. Though she wants close relationships very much, Lindsay Lohan often closes herself off and does not really trust others who may wish to get to know her. Lohan is very wholehearted in her feelings and responses to people, and she wants all or nothing from the people she cares for.

There can be a lack of harmony or satisfaction in Lohan’s romantic relationships – not necessarily a great deal of open conflict, but simply an underlying tension or discontent. This is because the people Lindsay Lohan finds likeable, lovable, and agreeable to she may not be at all attuned to her sexual tastes and needs. Another, more direct way of saying this is, the people Lindsay loves and the people Lindsay wants to make love with are very different from one another. Lindsay Lohan may be confused about what she really needs and wants in personal relationships. Lohan needs to acknowledge that she has some conflicting desires, such as a partner who is very gentle and sensitive but also a powerful, dominant personality, or security and commitment in love relationships but also a lot of freedom and excitement. Trying to satisfy both sides of the equation can be a tricky challenge.

A great deal of physical affection, closeness and touching is crucial to Lindsay’s well-being, and she has a tendency to overindulge in sensual comforts and pleasures. At times Lindsay Lohan substitutes food for emotional comfort and love.

Lindsay Lohan cannot tolerate pettiness or stinginess in her partner. Lindsay wants a hero to idolize and adore, someone to wholeheartedly admire and be proud of. Lindsay Lohan seeks security and loyalty in love relationships, is extremely devoted to her loved ones and provides a warm, nurturing atmosphere for them. However, Lohan tends to cling to others and prevent them from changing.

Lindsay Lohan craves love, appreciation and attention from others and hates to be ignored. She is rather susceptible to flattery and loves to feel special. Lohan enjoys a touch of drama and color in her love relationships and she is impressed by grand romantic gestures or extravagant expressions of generosity. She is very sociable, congenial person and she wilts very quickly without relationships with good friends and people to share good times with. Lindsay Lohan thoroughly enjoys working with others on group projects or community activities. She is quite happy when she is a part of a club, support group, or team of some sort.

Lindsay Lohan tends to have strange quirks, idiosyncrasies, or domestic habits, and she may feel that she does not fit in with normal people. These could be endearing eccentricities, or truly outlandish tastes and behavior. Establishing a steady routine and rhythm in her life and relationships would be very beneficial but may not be easily achieved. Ideally Lindsay Lohan can create a unique lifestyle that affords her a lot of personal space, freedom, and flexibility to follow her own somewhat erratic rhythms – while at the same time providing some order and consistency. There is a current of emotional discontent or restlessness within Lindsay also, which may be reflected in unstable personal relationships of the on again/off again variety. Lindsay Lohan craves change and excitement whether she realizes it consciously or not.

realiseMaybe you haven’t thought about developing collaborative business relationships and the benefits they bring yet.

Wouldn’t you agree that having a collaborative business relationship with people who you do business with, is important if not critical?

For many years I have been involved in trying to win projects and then deliver them successfully as a consultant and as a business leader internationally. The one key area that I have learnt to focus on is the developing, nurturing and maintaining of relationships with people that I worked for and with.

For some of us this aspect of business comes more naturally, while for others we have to work at it.

Well now we have a framework to help guide you and I, on how to develop collaborative business relationships with other people and organisations. In October 2010 the British Standard Institute – BSi, launched its specification BS 11000 collaborative business relationships – Part 1: A framework specification.

For some people creating a specification on how to develop collaborative relationships, may appear to mechanistic for such a “soft issue”. That maybe true to a degree but if we look at the 3 words in the title “collaborative business relationship”, especially collaboration, maybe it helps to overcome that point to a degree.

Let me share with you how I think you can use this specification to create mutual value for both you and your collaborative business partner by breaking down the phrase “collaborative business relationships”.

What do we mean by collaboration?

Sometimes people confuse collaboration with communication. Communication is part of collaboration.

In general terms collaboration is when people agree to work together to deliver an agreed outcome. Based on this there are four parts for collaboration to happen:

– Communication: talking about what we are going to do.

– Agreement: how we will behave and operate,

– Action: what we do to deliver.

– Outcome: creating value which we could not have done by ourselves – the reason to collaborate

The other two words in the title “business relationship” can be viewed in the context of a strategy map and the two internal perspectives – Learning and Growth (Organisation, People and Data) this is the “relationship” and are intangible assets. The second perspective is Internal (Management Processes) this is the ” business” and are tangible assets.

You are part of a business, which has both tangible and intangible assets that can be used as resources to support and deliver a project, new products and services that you have decided to develop and deliver with another group of people or organisation.

Your tangible “business” assets will include the physical buildings and equipment along with the multitude of business processes that you use to execute your work. Harnessing and reusing these so you can integrate them efficiently and effectively with your business partner, is going to save you both time and money and increases your joint capability to deliver successfully.

The intangible “relationship” assets, which are your Organisations culture, leadership, alignment and teamwork; the People who work with you – their skills, knowledge and experience; coupled with the information management systems that you use, covers the Learning and Growth perspective of your business. Incidentally, this typically represents 70% of your businesses value and is going to have the biggest impact on whether you are successful or not.

Realising these intangible and tangible assets is crucial and can be used in collaborative way to deliver value propositions and create added value that you and your partner have agreed and set as an outcome.

Creating a framework to help you integrate these tangible and intangible assets together with another organisation, in a collaborative way I believe, is a good start in the right direction, what do you think?

So what is BS 11000?

Well, the standard is divided into three phases and includes eight stages. These are listed below by phase:

Strategic Phase: Stage 1 Awareness (Clause3); Stage 2 Knowledge (Clause4) and Stage 3 Internal assessment (Clause 5)

Engagement Phase: Stage 4 Partner selection (Clause6); Stage 5 Working together (Clause 7); Stage 6 Value creation (Clause 8)

Management Phase: Stage 7 Staying together (Clause 9) and Stage 8 Exit strategy (Clause 10)

Each of these phases and respective stages are captured within a Relationship Management Plan (RMP). The RMP is the end deliverable in the form of a document which evolves as you work your way through the various stages. The RMP can be used initially as the baseline document within your business to record the corporate processes, especially those that already exist. This corporate RMP becomes a template for any specific project and future business partnering relationship.

The scope of BS 11000 is to help you identify, develop and manage collaborative business relationships between discreet organisations, functions and groups that you have identified. You can apply it to any size of organisation and will need to configure accordingly to suit the kind of relationship levels you are focussing on – small to large, simple to complex so that it improves operational performance and develops relationships that add value for you.

BS 11000 Stages

Below I have summarised the 8 stages for you so you become aware of how easily you could apply BS 11000 to your business and potential collaborative relationships.

– Stage 1 Awareness: Clause 3 helps you to consider and develop your corporate policy, identify the processes that form a basis for you to incorporate collaborative working as an active process that adds value and becomes part of your organisations culture.

– Stage 2 Knowledge: Clause 4 helps you to concentrate on discovering the knowledge that exists against an identified opportunity so you can create a business case and benefits analysis, This is similar to a gap analysis with a Go/No Go action at the end.

– Stage 3 Internal Assessment: Clause 5 provides you guidance on how to complete a gap analysis with regards to your current capability and maturity to successfully engage in a collaborative initiative. Although this is Stage 3, it is worth considering doing this first.

– Stage 4 Partner selection: Clause 6 now you have strategically decided to move ahead you will need to create a process to identify, evaluate and select appropriate partners. From my experience I have seen this done differently, if at all within the same company with varying degrees of success.

– Stage 5 Working together: Clause 7 once you have selected a partner(s) you need to make sure you have the correct operational structure, governance and RACI to effectively deliver the business case you developed in Stage 2

– Stage 6 Value creation: Clause 8 you need to keep the relationship alive, dynamic and beneficial so that it continues to deliver sustainable value by implementing the appropriate processes and approaches.

– Stage7 Staying together: Clause 9 after you spent time and effort in developing this relationship you need to measure and monitor the relationship so that its performance is fully optimised.

– Stage 8 Exit strategy: Clause 10 everything has a shelf life and you need to be prepared so that you can disengage efficiently when appropriate making sure you secure business continuity and the “door is left open” for future business relationships

As you probably have realised this is not a step by step process but an iterative one as lessons are learnt, opportunities present themselves and as new information is obtained.

The benefits of working collaboratively

Can you imagine using this framework and how it can successfully help you create more collaborative and higher value business relationships?

Putting this framework in place will overtime increase your capability to deliver joint efficiencies, innovate and explore new ways of working and enhance the culture of your organisation into a more open and transparent business, empowering your people to be more challenging and performance focussed.

BS 11000 is not a “silver bullet” for business relationships. It is a framework to integrate your tangible and intangible assets in a collaborative manner and when applied in conjunction with training and development of people, supported by the right collaboration technology; you will be able to create high value, viable and strategic business relationships both internally and externally.

friendpage3Weddings are great encounters of two mates who need to connote their dedication to bond, deliberately, for whatever is left of their lives. In Western nations, wedding services are typical and overwhelmingly sentimental, making the occasion truly costly, also.

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Love is the spice in human lives. Everyone desires to be loved, and this may result in addictive relationships. However, most of the relationships do not flourish or ends with happy music. Commitment and understanding are the two aspects that have a major role in keeping the relationships alive and kicking. To start with, you should first decide to maintain the relationship. And then you should be in an appropriate mental framework towards your partner.

Respect for a partner forms an important bonding. Remember, that your partner also deserves due share of admiration and respect. Most of the people ignore small achievements of partners. It might be a speck of dust for you, but it is of high value to your partner. Appreciation, praise and encouragement for each small achievement prove a great deal in the relationships. This understanding is yet another crucial factor in any relationship.

Allow the person know that you love him or her. Expressing your love with tiny gestures like a small flower, a romantic walk or even the words – ‘I love you’ are highly effective. This gives them emotional security and warmth in your relationship. Such expressions are successful in bonding the relationship. When you observe these little things, a healthy and fruitful bonding can be created.

While a healthy relation is recommendable for a fulfilled and happy life, one must also avoid addictive relationships. These are unhealthy relations where an individual becomes addicted for a person even knowing the futility of the situation. A person may get attracted towards someone solely due to physical urges, or he may cling to someone hoping for a desired change in the next fellow. This becomes a constant torment and still people can’t get away with it as they become addicted.

The reasons for such instances vary from personal issues of the partners to mental illness. Many people secretly believe that they simply don’t deserve happy relationships. Such low self esteem is injurious to successful relationship. Experts believe that you must learn to love yourself before loving anyone. Taoism states this fact as – ‘Respect yourself and the world follows’.

It is observed that most people forget about their partners and their preferences. They just ignore that even their partners suffer with some inherent flaws like they themselves do. Once the initial obsessive phase is over, it is very common to see people getting discouraged with their companions’ flaws. One should always keep in mind that we all are humans and as is said – ‘To err is human’.

Be frank, rational and open in your approach towards your partners. It won’t be difficult unless you are facing ‘love shyness’ syndrome. Individuals suffering with this syndrome simply hesitate from falling in love. They either stay away completely or keep finding excuses for not entering in any relationship due to fear of getting hurt. They just don’t want to love because to love is to open up and to open up is to become vulnerable.

If you want to make your life meaningful, it is advisable that you should get into some kind of healthy relationship. If you are confused, just be bold and take chance or try to get advice on relationships. At last, you can observe the growth of your relationships from a tender sapling into a tall and mighty tree. Remember, only thus brought up relationship will bear fruits of love and warmth. To know several things to boost your relationships and to get advice on relationships, visit:

Good relationships are definitely good sources of happiness in this life, especially if it concerns a romantic relationship or if it involves marriage, as this is a foundation of building one good and happy family. We may have found the right person and there may be lots of love, but if we fail in making relationships work, life may not be as happy as we think it would be.

We all want happy and fulfilling relationships and but if we do not keep that relationship alive, it can also be one of the most distressing things in life. Many of us may have gone through heartbreaks or some may have ended up in a divorce. Although heartbreaks are normal in dating, it can be somehow frustrating to think that we have finally found Mr. Right, married him but eventually ended up in a divorce.

From my experiences in life and from the many books that I have read about relationships, I have been trying to have a guide in making relationships work. There may be no hard and fast rules in making good relationships, as each of us has different preferences and points of view as to what is a great relationship, but I have found these two major key players in making relationships work.


It is often said that building good relationships is all about communication. Even if you are just starting out with dating, communication plays a major role in finding your perfect partner. Good communication indeed governs a good relationship – knowing the right thing to say, when to say it, how to say it, and accepting that some things that are better left unsaid.

I remembered one friend who confided in me how he was shocked to find out about huge credit card debts that his wife has incurred without his knowledge. He said he never felt so betrayed in his married life than a wife not telling him of her splurges in spending. Worst, it led to more marriage conflicts and divorce.

Truly, a gap in communication can bring a relationship down, and especially for married couples, I personally think communication must be broadened because building a family involves more decisions to make. From finances to religion, from intimacies to child responsibility and even in things about yourself or about your partner that you do not know, communication is essential in these aspects of the relationships.

Mutual Respect and Support for Each Other

Of course, being with someone is not saying that you totally agree with him all the time. You and your partner come from different family backgrounds, raised in different environments so there may be disagreements here and there. However, it is important in making relationships work to express disagreements without pushing the relationship to end. Again, good communication and learning to compromise at times are essential.

As the relationship lasts longer, you may also discover things about you and your partner that you may not have known before. Therefore, supporting each other on both your ‘hidden selves’ can also make a mature relationship.

Love is an important aspect of building relationships and for me, I always believe that love needs to be complemented with open communication, mutual respect, support and understanding in making relationships work. You can then work on the small things that spice up your marriage or your romantic relationship to make it more fun and interesting.

Nourishing our relationships and roles is a critical component of our overall health. Unfortunately, when stress or the busy nature of our lives become overwhelming, we sometimes let our most important relationships and roles slide a bit.

When this happens, I feel it’s important to remember what our priorities really are, and to place our focus there.

There’s a great analogy to give you a visual of what this means… it goes loosely like this:

Start with a large glass jar that represents your life. You get to choose what you fill your jar with. Your fillers are rocks, pebbles and sand. These fillers are your various relationships, roles, activities, responsibilities, activities, etc.

Your “rocks” represent your most significant relationships and priorities in life. The things that make your heart sing and complete you at the deepest level. For example, maybe your rocks consist of God, marriage, children, family, intimate friendships, career and pursuits you’re passionate about. (Maybe not!)

Your “pebbles” are the secondary relationships. For example, maybe some friends and family that didn’t quite make your “rocks” list, as well as career and hobby-related relationships or activities.

Your “sand” is just the ‘filler’… nothing personal against the folks or activities that are in your sand category! Your life could very easily be fulfilling, perhaps much more fulfilling and rewarding, without those relationships and activities, that’s all.

These could be relationships or activities that don’t do much to inspire you or enrich your life or the life of your “rocks”. They’re not necessarily bad or negative, in fact, they might be kinda’ fun! They just don’t light your fire the same way your rocks do!

Now visualize how you would go about filling up your jar. If you put all the sand in first, will you have room later to add all the rocks? Probably not.

Obviously, the lesson goes like this… fill your jar with your rocks first. Next, add your pebbles… they’ll fit in nicely around your rocks. Finally, add your sand… it fills in all the gaps and makes your jar ‘complete’ (not to mention that it has a nice “beach” feel now!).

Do you have too much sand left over to add to your jar?

Maybe it was sand that didn’t quite fit comfortably in your life in the first place. Perhaps it’s some of the time-wasting or self-destructive habits or hobbies you’ve become accustomed to. Possibly, it’s stressful or unhealthy relationships. Maybe it’s just something you’ve outgrown as you’ve evolved. Could be anything.

If there’s no room for it after your rocks and pebbles, throw it back onto the beach!

So, how do we make this “real” in your life?

1) Determine who and what are most important in your life. These are your “rocks”. Who and what come in second? These are your “pebbles”. And finally, who and what are your fillers? Alas, these are your “sand”.

2) Next, make sure these “rocks” are a priority in your daily or weekly schedule. When I look at my calendar before a new week begins, I first pencil in the things like appointments and commitments I need to keep. The very next thing I do is to schedule time for my rocks. In my case, this is dedicated time for my own rituals, my husband, my children, my dad, my close friends, and my work things: writing, speaking and educating. This is the “stuff” I’m most passionate about.

This is an incredibly valuable lesson I was taught many years ago, and it serves as a fantastic and challenging action step:

“Schedule your priorities as opposed to prioritizing your schedule.”

Be proactive in creating the time in your life for the most important people, relationships and roles FIRST. Laundry, dishes, errands, email, bills, paperwork, etc. will always be on the list, but they shouldn’t take the place of the ‘biggies’ in your life. I know, sometimes it’s easier said than done.

I’ve taken this lesson to heart for the last several years – I nurture and ‘feed’ my top relationships and passions, with great focus and intention, on a regular basis. Some of my own personal examples of this are: